Have you ever walked into a room at home and then forgotten the reason why you went there? Although it may have been a short a short walk, it was enough time for your mind to go off on another tangent. While speaking to someone in a conversation, have you ever blanked out and lost your train of thought? Or perhaps you have listened to someone drone on, only to later discover that your mind wandered and you have no idea what they just said?Continue reading
Over the course of any given day, we make a number of decisions regarding how we will invest our time and energy. Every day is filled with a new mix of people and situations that vie for our attention and require us re-evaluate and reshuffle our priorities. However, there may be one or two items that are absolutely non-negotiable and always make the daily cut. For me, that would be my morning routine upon awakening. I always start my day by mentally listing the things that I am grateful for in the moment. This is followed by centering and grounding myself, meditating, seeking guidance and setting my intentions for the day.Continue reading
Any “Grey’s Anatomy” fans out there? Who remembers the line “you’re my person”, first spoken by Cristina Yang to Meredith Grey? Although I heard the phrase more than a decade ago, the concept is timeless. Life is full of rough patches and can get emotionally messy and disorienting at times. Many of us find solace knowing that we have at least one person that we can turn to and can confide in, when we are at low tide.Continue reading
It would be so much easier if we could handle relationships as if they are milk cartons. Right away, we can tell when something is off or has gone bad. We do not ignore the signs and negate the reality of what we are sensing. We accept when a milk carton has expired and is beyond its “best-before” date. We recognize that it will no longer meet our needs and we do not try to hold onto it. We do not get stuck on questioning what went wrong and why it happened. We do not cast blame. We do not hold onto any false hopes that the milk will return to its previous state or that we can manipulate such a change. We do not seek closure. We do not cry over spoiled milk. We do not worry or stress over whether we will be able to find another milk carton that was as good as the one we had. We simply acknowledge that we must let it go, start fresh and move on.Continue reading
Did you realize that we maintain a tag cloud of emotions for every person within our social network? The mere mention of a person’s name will summon a unique constellation of feelings that we associate with them. All of our previous interactions and experiences leave an emotional imprint on us. Certain emotions will be experienced with greater frequency and intensity. They will stand out among the rest and dominate our overall impression of a person. Given that our relationships are fluid, the tag cloud of emotions will be updated with each new interaction.
Over time, we acquire a baseline of people’s behaviour patterns and can usually determine what to expect from future interactions. Additionally, if someone’s behaviour seems off or out of character, it can signal that something has changed for either the person, or the relationship itself. Some relationships feel light, easy-breezy and give us energy. We feel a sense of openness, acceptance and comfort within them. We experience enjoyment and gladly welcome the interactions that ensue from them. By contrast, other relationships feel heavy, uneasy and deplete our energy. We feel vulnerable, guarded and uncomfortable within them. We go out of our way to avoid or minimize our interactions in these types of relationships.Continue reading